All the Single Ladies (Put Your Hands Up)

I don't mean to alienate any of my male readers, but I just wanted to share some quick thoughts with my girls..... Guys, it can't hurt for you to hear it too.

I have a lot of single friends.  Mostly girls.  As someone who was single the majority of her young life with the exception of the past year or so, I can completely relate.  It is incredibly hard and can be completely lonely at times to be constantly single.

I remember the turning point for me as far as my mindset was concerned.   The message at church for weeks had been about relationships and love and was based on Song of Solomon.   I was at a 20-somethings group at church which was breaking down the topic and applying it to unmarried/single young people.  The speaker had someone pass out these tiny little circular mirrors as well as markers.  The talk that day was great and while the exact message didn't stick with me... one phrase did.

It was the phrase I chose to write on my mirror so that when I looked in it at my own reflection, I would be reminded..."BECOME THE ONE".  Every time I looked in that mirror, I was reminded that while I couldn't control which guys were attracted to me or which guy asked me out, I COULD control the person I was becoming.  I could focus on making myself the best version of me possible, and for the first time in my life realized that I would attract the right guy when I became the right girl.

Let me be the first to say that I am no expert here... but I do know I have a lot of friends who may need to be reminded of the same thing I was taught two years ago.

Donald Miller (author of Christian books such as Blue Like Jazz and A Million Miles in a Thousand Years) wrote a blog post today about living a great love story.  He is recently engaged and is what I consider to be a great man of Christ.  I would strongly suggest that all my single girl-friends read his blog post from today (http://donmilleris.com/2011/08/02/how-to-live-a-great-love-story/).  Tomorrow he'll be speaking to the guys, and I'm excited to read that as well.

His blog did focus mostly on girls not being "easy" so I tweeted him to ask what he would say to the good girls who were still managing to attract the wrong guys... He actually responded (I was even more excited than when I realized Justin Bieber was following me on Twitter as I actually care what DM has to say).  His response was simply, "they have to turn them down.  Guys know when they aren't wanted".

So girls, don't waste your time on the wrong ones... even if you're lonely.  Donald Miller says so!